Yes, over the decades, with a focus on productivity post-industrialization, we have become more and more separate from one another. Today, we find ourselves living in an epidemic of disconnection. We are more alone, undoubtedly. We long for connection, yet have become so accustomed to surface level talk, quick hellos, and goodbyes, and inauthentic smiles that it ties us over most days. In turn, we try and connect to anything around us just to feel again – whether it be social media, our work, substance, material goods or otherwise. At this point, we can safely suggest that we have lost our villages. The villages that once held us, allowed us to be seen and heard as we are. The villages that gave us a sense of belonging. The villages that gave us an opportunity to raise our children together.
That said, our ‘villages’ in the past hundreds of years haven’t looked as they once did. Yet, they have been driven by a sense of togetherness – but only on the surface. Our villages are now primarily based on socio-economic class, religion or another aspect of our lives we may be unhealthily identified with.
Effectively, we have to ‘be someone’ to belong. But you see, we don’t authentically connect when we come together in such a way. We hold tight to our personas that we wear on the outside. We are often playing into patterns that keep us feeling that we belong but don’t offer us a space to feel safe and seen. From this place, we are unable to grow. Moreover, when we are in relationships that have been with us for decades, they can impede our ability to grow past holding patterns of who we need to be for the other if the other isn’t willing to move past their own limiting beliefs and is still co-dependent or relying on an enmeshed way of being.
There is simply no room to grow when we don’t give one another space to do so and be in their individual light within the collective. Often, it takes the destruction of an entire ‘system’ to invite a new way in. My sense is that it is finally time to invite in the notion of a village-based on true understanding, true belonging, and true self. One where we can show up, without any particulars that match that of others who surround, other than an innocent and simply willingness to connect authentically. Are you ready to create a village that supports our real selves? We welcome you in.